Merge two trees
I’m thinking about borrowing a custom from another culture, to get around a perceived difficulty. All that remains is to receive the accord of those involved. One small glitch; none of us are members of the loaning culture.
You see, when I relocate, one of my children may still be attached to “the nest”. And, if I sell this nest, the legal term is an encumbrance. Not too big a detail, but it could mean spending a longer time with a “for sale” sign on the front lawn. The alternative is to provide required accommodation in the next house. Then, we move into a whole new set of circumstances.
Namely, launching the fledge. In an ideal world, a marriage would give impetus (much nicer than the boot to the bottom which some have suggested). And so, after some thought, I realized that an arranged marriage is the ideal solution. I’ve watched a few movies in my time…
Now, over the last couple of summers, we’ve been served by a young local student (local to the new area), and all the back story checks out. Excellent student, good career possibilities, knows the area well and seems to enjoy life there. As an added plus, we share mutual relatives. It makes it easy to get past the introduction stage, when you point out that “our family member and your family member share cousins”. Of the same degree, in surfeit. No need to completely redraw the genealogy charts.
I’ve presented my case, here. Over freshly baked pizza. All that remains is to present the case to the other set of parents.
